What is the philosophy of masters, experts, winners, happy people, leaders and those who seem to attract everything they want?

How are they different from the majority who fail, struggle, seem to try hard but never get ahead?

Those who master the mistakes they make, accept them and appreciate the lesson they learned have a more positive attitude than the people who whine, complain, feel sorry for themselves and quit.

Life is a journey.  Each mistake does teach us something.  When you can master your mistake and appreciate the value of it you learn an empowering lesson.  When you whine, complain, blame, criticize and allow yourself to be caught in the negativity of making a mistake you will continue to repeat the same, or similar mistakes over and over again until you learn what you need to learn.  As the law of attraction is, we attract back the vibrations we are currently vibrating at.

People who are successful, feel happy, are the masters of their lives by doing what they love attracting what they want often look for the mistakes they make.  They want to know what mistakes they could be making so they can correct or master them.  They own their mistakes.  Each mistake is consider one step closer to success.

People who seem to struggle, make the same mistakes over and over again are quick to blame others, over look the value of the mistake and don’t seem to learn what they need to learn.

You, me, and anyone else are ‘same’. We may look different, have completely different lifestyles, etc. but we have the ability to learn and choose what it is we want to learn.  Determination, persistence, dedication, commitment, appreciation, acceptance are all virtues that most masters have.  They make mistakes.  They sometimes make the same mistakes over and over again, but they don’t give up. Instead they master the mistake until they master their life purpose.

You can become a master, an expert or anything you really set your mind to and commit to learning, mastering each mistake along the way until you succeed.  When you feel like giving up, get up and make more mistakes.  Each mistake will teach you something.

Here’s my short story of how I mastered something this past weekend which I am happy about.

Technology isn’t my passion, but knowing that in business today technology is essential I consistently learn all I can, make lots of mistakes, but persevere.

I wanted to help a friend who wrote an amazing children’s book, a book of poetry and many other poems over the years, as a quadriplegic who faces more obstacles and struggles than anyone deserves.

Despite a life of ill health she is always positive and inspirational and this is why I wanted to commit to helping her to have her own blog.

This amazing individual is committed to her faith and beliefs and I believe she has much to share.  Her undeniable faith in God, love for family, children and friends is inspiring for anyone facing adversity.  What she has taught me is that with focus, determination and faith you can become the master of whatever you set your mind to.  So, with this lesson I persevered and created a blog site for her (all by myself).  It’s not perfect, but she is delighted and I’m happy to accomplish this.

In summary, there is nothing we can’t master without determination, focus and faith.  If you are wishing you had more of xyz it may just be time to become a master at xyz.  There is information every where.  There are tutorials on just about everything.  Focus on what you really want, stop procrastinating and get to it!

In the meantime, take a moment and visit the new site I put together this weekend.  Buy the book for a child, any child and you will be helping a woman who became a master at poetry and writing.  The book is AWESOME!  It really is.    Go Here:  Leapin John the Leprachaun

GO – Make mistakes, learn from your mistakes and become a MASTER at what YOU love doing.

]]> http://blogwithwendy.com/mistakes-masters/feed/ 0 http://blogwithwendy.com/law-of-attraction-life-coach/ http://blogwithwendy.com/law-of-attraction-life-coach/#comments Sat, 16 Feb 2013 10:52:02 +0000 Wendy http://blogwithwendy.com/?p=45 Law of attraction life coaching can inspire, motivate and support you in becoming successful attracting what you want instead of wasting time with what you don’t need.

The term life coaching may be a new concept especially law of attraction life coaching. I thought so too 4 years ago. I’d heard about ‘THE SECRET’, in fact I had the set of CD’s but had yet to listen to them. When we become aware and allow the universal energy to attract what we are aligned with we discover abundance and appreciation for all that is and will be.

In the process of looking for a business online (because I needed to work from home) I knew without a doubt that life coaching was (and had been) my passion and purpose since the age of 14.  At 14 I was very clear about my desires in life and also very empathic.  Life circumstance and lack of confidence got in my way and I got off track. I now know why!  I needed to experience the contrast to appreciate the clarity so I could be more compassionate and relate to the energy of my clients.

So to get back to the awakening of the ‘law of attraction’ I discovered the “Quantum Success Coaching Academy” (click for more info) and one year later I became certified as a “law of attraction life coach”.  Adding this accreditation to numerous other courses, certifications and life experience I am proud to support my clients to ignite spark into their personal and professional lives.  I have since written a book “Single Parents Secrets to Effective Communication” based on years of communication studies, personal development courses and my own deeper emotional attachment to inspiring single parents to effectively align and communicate with their children and all people in their life.  When we can express ourselves authentically and honestly with complete confidence knowing what feels good and what doesn’t we are empowered.  With empowerment comes control over our own lives and the ability to make good conscious and deliberate choices that attract optimal health, happiness and wealth.  We can ALL have this secret when the keys are shared!

Keys to Success

We all need to communicate through body language, thoughts and feelings effectively, knowingly and purposefully. Too often we mis-communicate by default (we haven’t learned the keys).  We learn to judge ourselves by what others think instead of what we intuitive know to be right for us.  Our perception of “self” is derived from our surroundings and who we align ourselves with. Some people believe only rich people are successful people, or only educated people are successful, or lucky people are successful.  The truth is each and every one of us can be successful!  YOU can be successful!

An experienced coach :

• reflects back to you the thoughts, feeling and beliefs you are projecting.
• inspires, motivates and teaches you where to find the answers to your questions.
• supports and assists you in creating a crystal clear vision of what you really want in your life and how to feel successful while choosing the most direct path to achieving it.
• encourages you to take the necessary action to create the solid foundation required in re-structuring your life and/or business.
• Holds you accountable to following through with the action steps to move forward to achieve your goals.
• Offers you tools, strategies, solutions and processes that make your success easier to attain.
• Celebrates in your successes and through appreciation attracts success so you become the magnet.

Good coaching is not advising, therapy or consulting, although if you desire advice it can be given.  Good coaching aligns with your specific best interests in supporting you to remain on track.

Successful business people have mentors that have inspired them at one time or another.  Successful people know that education and on-going training are necessary to stay competitive and ahead of the game.

Coaching offers the same perspective as a good mentor, but is looking in from the outside and is not emotionally involved with your past excuses.  Coaching is having your own personal trainer, who holds your success first and foremost.

We all have areas of resistance, fear, and we have bad habits that hold us back from achieving all that we are capable of.  Having a coach to reflect to you where your resistance may be, offering you the “aha” moments that allow to feel successful and supporting you to continue challenging yourself is “priceless”.

Do not make excuses. Do not blame. Do not criticize or condemn.  Take responsibility. Take action. Be accountable

Investing in your emotional and mental health with a one on one coaching program will allow you to create a crystal clear vision of how your future will be when you focus.  Take action with 100% commitment.  Trust in yourself and the universe.

I coach using law of attraction techniques that are successful, business practices that deliver better service and profitability, and support that allows you to feel confident and empowered.  If you align with my message I invite you to contact me personally, enter “consultation” in the subject line of the email. No spam, no requests that are not willing to take yourself seriously and respect my time.

wendy@wendymackaycoachinginc.com  My time is valuable and your time should be too, so please only email if you are looking for a consultation with the desire to find out more about my coaching services. Thank you.

If you want to make a positive difference and be a part of the universal shift in expanding more positive energy that attracts positive results, then market with a plan,purpose and passion.

You WILL be successful giving hope and inspiration with valuable content.  It’s what’s needed in times of economic and emotional overwhelm.  The more specific your market and target audience, the more likely you are to find the perfect clients or customers for your service or product.  You can’t market to everyone. You don’t want to market to people who don’t align with your message.  Too much time, energy and money will be wasted if you try.

Imagine and get very clear on precisely who your perfect clients and customers are.  Visualize them coming to you wanting what you offer.  Feel how great it is to engage in conversation with them, solving their problems and supplying their needs with your products.  Follow through with appreciation for these perfect clients and have an offer that aligns with what you believe in.  When you can be creative and offer service above and beyond with a referral system your clients become your marketing campaign.

Imagine a world where entrepreneurs come together in honesty, with integrity supplying products and services that are as valuable as promised.  Imagine if all entrepreneurs appreciated their clients because those clients shared the same passion as they do.  Imagine giving and receiving unexpected bonuses with the extreme value you pay for.

Everyone basically wants the same thing.  People want to be respected, valued and appreciated as a customer or client.  When people receive extreme value with no strings attached they want to reciprocate and return.

Be the customer or client you want and expect then give 2X more to your customers and clients.  If you love what you do and do it from the heart your customers and clients feel your compassion.  You don’t, and shouldn’t do everything in business by yourself.  Be the expert at what you love to do and outsource, partner or hire experts that will save you time and money while providing exceptional value to your business. And, since I believe that behind every successful person, entrepreneur and business there are professional coaches who inspire, support and motivate to keep everything on track I’m here to help.  If not me, I know many other awesome coaches who are superior.

Now you are aware of why some entrepreneurs are successful while others continue to spin their wheels, look busy while spending money chasing the answers.  If you are an entrepreneur looking for more success, clients and customers start taking inspired action and come back soon.

Wendy MacKay – Soul Whisperer – Igniting sparks on and offline.

Check out my new blog @ http://wendymackaycoachinginc.com

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What we learn when we’re young become our beliefs until such time we choose to change our perception.

For example:

As I was baking this morning I began to think of the women in my life as I was growing up who influenced me.  My mother would bake only because she felt she needed to save money and homemade goodies were cheaper than store bought.  She didn’t enjoy the process and often scrimped on better quality ingredients which made most things taste bland.  My best friend’s mother always had fresh baking and clearly enjoyed that her ‘goodies’ always tasted exceptional.  My mother-in-law loved to bake and being in the kitchen was her passion.  She spent hours preparing meals, baking, canning and preserving and held such pride in serving up food for everyone.  Her recipes were like well kept secrets that only were shared with her favorite people. Another influence for me was my home economics teacher who was critical, precise and took her job seriously.  I’ll never forget how she carefully explained the importance of ever so gently folding the ingredients when making muffins so they would be light and fluffy.

What I learned from just these 4 women:

1. Mother – You get what you pay for (cheaper ingredients). A penny saved is a penny earned.  When you do what you don’t enjoy it reflects in the finished product.  Her negative attitude influenced me to ‘want’ to enjoy the kitchen and take pleasure in serving food that was nutritious and tasty.  The contrast she showed me allowed me to appreciate good homemade baking like that of my friends’ mom.
2. Best friend’s mom – the most valuable lesson I gained from her was the enjoyment she chose to feel by baking tasty products that were nutritious and abundant.  It gave her such pleasure to please the family and she never complained.  The more kids in the kitchen the happier she seemed and I felt such appreciation for feeling welcome.  Her kitchen was her domain and she loved to share it!
3. My mother-in-law taught me how to bake well.  She shared her enjoyment and felt such pride in sharing her knowledge.  She taught me the importance of following the recipe, not skimping on the ingredients and how to improvise when needed.  She showed me the sheer pride in not just baking but presentation mattered as well.
4. My teacher also taught me the basics.  How to measure accurately (which now with years of experience I often do by a dash and drop), the difference between kneading, stirring, folding or beating.  She taught me presentation, color and texture to display the end product in a way that was eye appealing. She was a great teacher who knew what she needed to know and how to inspire her students.

All together I learned the appreciation of not only the lessons these women taught me in learning how to bake, but how to enjoy creating from scratch something that contains love with all the other ingredients.

Never under estimate the value in any moment!

In summary, every moment you discover something new.  Stop and appreciate each lesson you learn and appreciate how you’ve been inspired.  Give thanks to the people who inspired or influenced you. How and what you choose to take away from each lesson really matters.  You can choose to be negative or you can choose to be positive. Take what you don’t like and see it as ‘contrast’ to clarify what you do want.  Take what you like and perfect it for yourself, share it with someone and inspire them.

It doesn’t matter if it’s baking or building a business, it’s what you take away from the experience. All lessons are valuable when you learn how to recognize and appreciate them.  Make a conscious decision how to use what you learn and modify it to suit your needs.  As you are more consciously aware of how, what, why, when or where every event in your life is being attracted you can be the ‘deliberate creator’ of your destiny.

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If you’re over 50, looking for something new and exciting in your life checkout my coaching site @ http://wendymackaycoachinginc.com

Do you ever ask yourself:      Is This All There Is ?       When is it my turn to have fun?

What pre-conceived image to you have about yourself?  Despite your background, nationality, race or religion as a person we ALL want to be loved and appreciated and accepted for who we are.  We want to feel deep in our hearts that we belong, that we matter and fit in.  We want to be remembered when we die.  We want to make a difference in the World, at least most of us do!

We may not all agree what that difference looks like. At a deep level in our ‘soul awareness’ we know our purpose and we’re often restless until we feel we’re actually living it.

The questions is:  HAVE YOU FOUND YOUR PURPOSE AND ARE YOU LIVING ALIGNED WITH IT?

• Do you acknowledge and realize just how remarkable you are?
• Have you ever taken the time to write out a personal resume of all the unique gifts and talents you share on a daily basis?
• Do you fully appreciate the years of self-education and service you’ve developed as a mother, daughter, sister, aunt, step-parent, daughter-in-law, wife, grand mother, significant other and/or career woman?

I believe most of us under-estimate and over-look our value.  We allow everyone around us to take for granted the multiple tasks, devotion and services we provide.  Until such time that YOU begin to recognize and value yourself, you will continue to allow everyone else to take you for granted. Sad as it may seem you must advocate for yourself.

When we, as woman don’t appreciate ourselves and expect to be treated with respect, love and gratitude we’re giving permission to others to disrespect and not appreciate you.  At some point we lose self-worth and self-confidence because we have allowed it.

Too many women feel they’re expected to ‘be there, do it all’ and then do more.  Too many women find it easier to do it themselves than to ask for help.  Too many women over-extend themselves and then suffer from the consequences of stress, fatigue and lack of appreciation. Does any of this sound familiar?

Today I am here to tell you:

• You matter!  
• You are MAGNIFICENT!
  
• You are INCREDIBLE! 
• You are SUPER WOMAN!
  
• You deserve to do more for yourself!
  
• You deserve to have all that you want and then some!

So what’s next?  You begin by recognizing ALL the value, experience, skills of everything you accomplish on a daily basis.  You begin to appreciate yourself!  You begin by being kind, loving and respectful of your body, mind and soul.  You treat yourself as well as, if not better than the way you’ve been treating everyone else you love.

• Schedule an appointment with yourself to do something you’ve always wanted to do but made excuses why you couldn’t.
• Stop procrastinating or making excuses as to why you don’t deserve that special treatment you deserve.
• Make a list of wants, desires and needs and begin checking them off.
• Take time daily to spend alone to assess what you want and how you can receive it.
• Journal, meditate, join a class with fun people doing what you love.
• Try something new like a zumba class, yoga, pilates, dance, painting, pottery – whatever inspires you.
• Get together with other like-minded woman who want to share inspiration without complaining, criticizing or condemning.
• Eat healthier.
• Get a make-over, pedicure, manicure, massage or whatever allows you to feel pampered.

YOU DESERVE MORE!

Leave your comments below and tell me what you’re going to do to change and begin appreciating yourself more. Often when you commit to or tell someone else you will be more likely to follow through.  Ask for accountability if you feel you need it.  Enjoy, be happy and start living fully for every moment in every day.

Also, check out my other site where my focus is with ‘Igniting SPARK in the souls of women 50+‘ at http://wendymackaycoachinginc.com

]]> http://blogwithwendy.com/women-deserve-more/feed/ 0 http://blogwithwendy.com/authenticity-where-can-i-find-it/ http://blogwithwendy.com/authenticity-where-can-i-find-it/#comments Mon, 04 Jun 2012 23:32:02 +0000 Wendy http://blogwithwendy.com/?p=1049 There’s so much talk about living authentically with integrity, especially if representing yourself online, but what does this really mean?

According to the dictionary authenticity is “of undisputed origin: genuine, original”.  Who are we if not original? That’s such a valid question.  Many people are so lost in believing they must act in a particular way to be accepted by society that they don’t know how to ‘be’ their genuine self.  As a whole we want to believe that we are living in a free world where our choices are our own, but are we? Rules, laws, peer pressure and community dictate our behaviour. We are all ‘programmed’ to an extent on what is acceptable and what’s not.  From the moment we’re born there are expectations put upon us with guidelines as to what is ‘normal’.

So, where do you find authenticity?

My personal opinion is; authenticity lives within our soul.  We are being authentic when we’re feeling self-assured, confident, determined with a purpose that feels right for us from the depth of our soul.  When we listen to our own conscience and radiate happiness from within the bowels of our presence.

It’s this emotion, feeling, consciousness that resonates a big YES from within our inner awareness and aligns with everything we want for our self that defines authenticity for me.

What does it feel like?

Personally, I have become more aware (keyword being ‘aware’) of what I’m feeling more often than what I’m thinking.  When I’m aligned with what I’m feeling I am more relaxed, confident, and at the same time happy inwardly.  I don’t feel a need to assert myself, explain myself or convince anyone of anything.  No matter what others have to say I feel unwavering in my knowledge of what resonates with me.  I am 100% comfortable in my own skin, in my thoughts and with my actions when I am authentically feeling me. It feels real!  It feels right!  It feels fantastic!  For me, it’s the essence of happiness!

How do I access it?

Any great coach will tell you that it’s in asking the right questions and listening to the answers that sound truthful that defines good coaching.  Through learning coaching skills and years of personal development I’ve discovered how to listen and hear what my own body is telling me.  I’m ‘in touch’, aligned with my ‘soul awareness’ or what I sometimes refer to as my intuition when I’m feeling relaxed, confident, self-loving, as though everything about me matters.  When every cell in my body feels as though it agrees with what I’m doing, or saying I feel I’m being authentic.  It’s not just a fleeting moment of excitement or enthusiasm, it’s a definitive, definite lasting feeling of who I am and how I feel that feels real. So, in response to “how do I access my authenticity” I would say by listening to by body, mind and soul and truly understanding what I’m feeling.  When you’re not feeling happy doing what you’re doing, content and peaceful, consistently excited and purposeful, confident and sure of yourself and determined no matter what others’ have to say then you likely aren’t being authentic or aligned with your purpose.  If you feel discouraged, angry, worthless, or any other negative emotion doing what you’re doing then you certainly aren’t living your authentic self. You deserve more!

Each and every person on Earth matters!  We ALL have a purpose.  We ALL have the ability to live our authentic self if and when we listen to what our own inner voices and emotions are telling us.  It’s when we don’t listen and we act from our head, not our heart that we question authenticity, purpose and ourselves.

You know at some level what brings you joy.  Begin following your joy more often, living authentically and you will begin attracting the people and events into your life that resonate with you personally.  As you align with these people and events your joy expands and before you know it your life will be purposeful.

Want help along the way?  My purpose, as a life coach is to support those with the desire and will to persistently discover more happiness.  Join me in coaching!

From my perspective too many people are losing the ability to effectively communicate despite the fact they think they’re connecting and marketing consistently.  Cell phones and social media platforms are offering apps daily and the possibilities to create relationships world-wide.  However, I personally feel it’s in the direct approach, (one-on-one conversation with eye contact, voice tone and good listening skills) while standing behind your product with great customer service that will always win over any app, peep or post.   Just because you’re tweeting, posting and texting every activity and movement in your day does not mean you’re creating meaningful relationships that matter personally or professionally.  If you’re a business person ask yourself these 3 questions:

• What is your marketing campaign and is it working?
• Are you successfully fulfilling your goals and objectives?
• Are your customers satisfied?

When in business you must stay focused with a business plan and defined goals that consistently generate income.    You must do this by establishing good relationships with people who want your product or service.  It’s easy to get side-tracked while reading emails, checking social media sites and posting peeps.  Focus!  Find a method that works for you to stay on track doing what it takes to grow YOUR business while expanding your network.

Know your target audience and post messages related to them.

• Location – if you’re commenting on a specific product that’s only sold locally be sure to target those who live in the area. Take pictures, make reference to applicable topics and engage your audience in conversation but keep in mind your end goal. Be an active participant in your community.   If you’re set up to market world-wide make your message understandably clear, always thinking about how the reader can respond and how your “words of wisdom” apply to your marketing message and have a method to follow up, connect and answer questions.  Stand behind and be the voice of what you believe in.
• Language –  Not everyone understands abbreviations or what I refer to as morse code of the 21st century (computer and social media lingo).  Effective communication is becoming a lost skill although we argue otherwise. It’s often one-sided and missed opportunities that could potentially double or triple sales because we aren’t hearing (or listening) to what people really want.  Read what you write and ask yourself if your message is clear to anyone, or does it only address a specific, narrow audience.  Don’t skip words thinking people will read between the lines.  If you want them to take action, tell them.
• Likability – people buy from people they relate with.  Customer service is under-rated and will always, in my mind, be the #1 reason for retention in business.  Ask your customers what they want and then be willing to provide it for them (after all they’re the reason you’re in business).  Always fulfill your promises and over-deliver service. Ask questions.  Is your customer happy with your service?  If so are they willing to refer you to their friends.  Will they return for future business?  Was there anything you could have done better?  The more questions you ask the clearer you become on the wants and needs of potential business and customer needs.  Be willing to accept the advise and act upon it.  Provide results that leave an impression.

Whether you are in business or not the more questions you ask and the more you listen to precisely what people are telling you the easier it is to deliver results.  Take appropriate action you feel aligned with to improve your relationships with customers.  Marketing & sales is simply the ability to relate to your audience on their level and be outstanding at it.

Know your value, be willing to give more than you expect to receive and you’ll not only reap the rewards, but you will stand out in a crowd.  Chances are you have an outstanding product or service but unless you gain the trust and interest of the masses you’re destined to fail.  Be proud of what you have to offer and confidently share why people should choose you compared to the competitor.

That’s my take on it today.  Share your comments below or share this post.  Get my free offer in the right hand column for more tips.  To your success and happiness – Wendy MacKay

**Marketing and sales are not my specialty, however in everything we do in life we are selling our thoughts, opinions and ideas.  People don’t want to be sold to, they want to receive what they feel they need that has the most value for the least cost.

Worrying is an excuse not to take inspired action. It’s time to stop worrying and start living fully in the present moment with specificity, purpose and passion. Focus on what does work, what feels good and you’ll discover it shows up more. That is the LAW of attraction!  When you’re happy and laughing you are present, and that’s what really matters!
As a life coach supporting women specifically to discover more happiness I find those who are consistently worrying about how they look, what others’ think about them, what they think they should or shouldn’t do or say, why they think they need to do what others expect them to do, aren’t having fun.  They’re taking the World’s problems on their shoulders and the weight is heavy. In the process they become stressed, unhappy and feel their needs aren’t important. This is the farthest thing from the truth.  We are ALL important and we are born to live happy, healthy and doing what we love.

Could have or should have thoughts hold you back from experiencing what ‘is’ right now, this second.   Too often we believe we need to ‘fix’ everything instead of accept, appreciate and allow it to just ‘be’ whatever it is.  If we think we need to ‘fix’ things we must believe its’ broken.  When we try to fix other people’s problems we not only are judging them we dis-empower them from being able to learn and make their own choice on what they want to do.

If you are a worrier ask yourself:

• What good is my worrying?
• What am I trying to fix?
• Is it my problem to fix?
• If it is your problem take action and resolve the problem so there’s no longer anything to worry about.
• Any time you feel the need to change or fix things, stop and ask yourself on a scale of 1-10 how important is this for me to fix?

If you decide it’s really important do you need to change it right now or could you schedule it for later? Sometimes when you set things aside and come back to it later you have a clearer perspective.  Learn to let go, set things aside and focus on the task at hand to release feeling overwhelmed.  Delegating chores and/or handing back responsibility to others’ allows you time to accomplish what you need to.  It also sends the message that you don’t need to ‘fix’ all problems. It lets other people learn to accomplish their own tasks and learn responsibility.  Mom’s tend to think they need to be the one to fix everything.  Empowering others to take inspired action helps them resolve their own problems while being productive.  It teaches them to choose their own consequences for their own actions. It also builds their confidence to know they are capable of resolving their own problems.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stressed or tired, set aside some time to determine why.  Ask yourself what can you get help with or let go of.  If you want to feel happy often, consider how you want to be treated and treat yourself better.  Don’t blame, criticize or complain because ultimately it’s your problem.  Discover better solutions that allow you time for yourself.

What really matters?  You do!!  You matter, so choose empowering action that inspires you to live your dreams.

Yesterday has come and gone, today is all that matters.

If you’ve always been a worrier and have trouble staying focused coaching can be a quicker, inspiring and prodcutive choice to make.  Communicating your desires, strategizing a specific course of action that aligns with your specific needs, learning tools that transpire you to succeed is priceless.  Most successful business professionals, athletes, personal achievers have all had mentors and coaches who supported them.  Like anything in life, if you want to get ahead follow leaders who know what they’re doing.  Be honest and true to yourself if you want personal satisfaction and happiness in life.  Get started today on the rest of your life and enjoy the journey!

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Wendy MacKay – Life coach inspiring women to live SPARK (Spirit, Purpose, Appreciation, Recognition & Knowledge)

If you, or someone you know and care about is facing the responsibility of caring for others this information could make the difference between their burn-out or survival.

In my personal experience I have discovered taking time for myself is a top priority.  I realize it can be hard to get help and it’s easier said than done to look after yourself first, but… stop and consider the fact that if you should burn-out, have an accident as the result of being over-tired or overwhelmed you’ll be needing care! Then what will happen?

The question then, is what can you do to give yourself the care you need so as not to burn-out?  Here are some suggestions that have helped me:

1. Keep a journal.  Write down your feelings. What upsets you and how can you resolve the situation? Get the information from your head to the paper.  This exercise can allow you to visually see just what’s going on and open the opportunity to brainstorm solutions.  Writing can be a tremendous release.  When you’re writing down your thoughts don’t pre-judge or consider what you’re writing, just allow the thoughts to run out of the pen.  Once you’ve written all you can to let go of what’s been accumulating in your head you can choose whether or not to take it further.  You may want to: 1. analyze what you’ve written  2. brainstorm solutions 3. crinkle up the paper and burn it, or throw it away 4. just save it as reference for another time or 5. ask for help.
2. Appreciate.  This was a particularly difficult process for me.  When I initially felt angry, victimized or just plain wanted to blame someone for the circumstances I felt I got myself into.  Once I surrendered to the process and began creating a gratitude journal I began to feel better.  Instead of just journaling what comes to mind, as in #1, journal what you feel grateful for.  If any negative thoughts surface push them aside and tell yourself you’ll ‘deal’ with those thoughts later.  Instead just focus on what you do have that you are appreciative for.  It could be the opportunity to be of service.  If you’re caring for a loved one it could be the chance to give back.  Maybe it’s appreciating your own health and ability that you are able to care for this person.  Continue to relax into the process until you’ve exhausted all thoughts in this moment and add to your gratitude journal as you think of other things to be grateful for.  Come back and read over your journal when you’re feeling angry or upset.
3. Meditation.  For many people who have pre-conceived ideas of what meditating is and aren’t familiar with this practice allow yourself to let go of your beliefs.  Meditation is simply the art of accepting and allowing your mind to let go of all thoughts.  You can find many meditation video’s on Youtube that may help, or you can simply take a few deep breaths, relax, let go and feel into a peaceful, relaxing moment.  Focus on your breathing in and out and allow all tension you’re holding to dissipate. The more you practice the easier it becomes to get into a meditative state.
4. Find something you enjoy to look forward to.  Don’t stop living your joy by becoming a care-giver.  You can’t be what you need to be, helping someone else unless you’re true to yourself.  Pamper yourself!  Don’t make excuses, instead find alternatives for what may not be ideal but can feel fun.  Ask for help. There are people willing to help when you ask, but until you ask they may feel intrusive or they simply aren’t aware of how to help.
5. Clear the clutter.  Sometimes getting down to basics by eliminating clutter can make all the difference in the world.  Anything you don’t need, haven’t used in a long time or that’s out-dated get rid of.  The less there is the easier it is to focus on what is.  There is definitely something to be said for simplicity.  As you go into a cupboard to find something, take things out that have expired dates, or are never used.  How much do you hold onto that you don’t even know what to use it for?  Medications have expiration dates and need disposing.  Be aware of toxic chemicals and inter-actions of disposing certain liquids.  Ask your pharmacist how or what to get rid of.  Get rid of old can goods, foods that you no longer eat or food in the freezer that is freezer burnt.  Often just the process of clearing the clutter will clear the mind.  Like Spring cleaning you feel better once it’s done.  If you don’t have the energy to do this, again ask for help. It’s better to spend a little on eliminating what could be harmful if kept.
6. Change of scenery.  Getting outdoors, or changing things around can give you a fresh perspective.  Nature is a wonderful way to heal the soul. Whether you love animals, trees, flowers, water, sunshine, if you can’t get away bring more of what you love in.  Sounds of nature or relaxing music can soothe the soul.  What have you loved to do in the past?  How can you spark that joy and bring it into your home?
7. Talk it out.  Find people that you resonate with who will bring a ray of sunshine into your heart.  Focus on topics of inspiration rather than complaining about the tasks at hand.  The more you think about what you don’t have or how difficult things are the less you feel motivated.  Instead, concentrate on pleasure, listen to people who inspire you and appreciate simple moments of happiness.
8. Plan ahead.  What can you do to alleviate your responsibilities so you have more happiness in your daily life?  What can you do today to prepare for the future?  Choose one task at a time and make necessary changes to get results that are better.  One step at a time, recognizing your progress and appreciating the success you make will keep you focused and seeing positive results.

If you have other steps that have proven helpful be sure to add them by leaving a comment.  If you would like support and someone to listen check out my coaching programs.  You matter and as a care-giver your physical, emotional, spiritual and mental health is a priority.  Do what’s necessary to care for YOU, too!